2019 Goals!

Hey guys! With the new year just around the corner I thought I’d go ahead and share some of my goals for 2019! Comment what your goals for the upcoming year are! I’d love to hear!

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Family

  • More quality time and memories
  • More vacation time and exploring
  • More date nights
  • Music classes with Ava
  • More outside time for Ava

 

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Business

  • Double our 2018 sales
  • Find new customers in Arizona
  • Find new customers on West Coast
  • Buy 2-3 more trucks and hire new drivers

 

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Home 

  • Finish renovations on house
  • Fix cool deck
  • Start garden
  • Build gym
  • Buy 1 acre of land

 

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Physical Self Improvement

  • Lose 30 pounds
  • Work out 3-5 times a week
  • Take Ava on a walk every day
  • Eat more veggies
  • Eat more non-meat proteins
  • Drink 1 gallon of water every day

 

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Mental Health and Self Love

  • Meditate 20 minutes in the morning and 20 minutes at night
  • Spa day once a month
  • Girl time once a month
  • Read 30 books this year (at least 15 new ones)

Happy Holidays!

Happy holidays everyone! I know I have gotten off to a rocky (mostly inconsistent) start to my blog. But I wanted to thank my current followers for showing me the love and I let you know that I am so honored to be apart of the community of strong, creative, and passionate people. you have all been so wonderful to me! Because this blog is mostly a mom lifestyle blog I wanted to take the time to leave a few of my favorite family pictures from this year here. Thank you again everyone for all your support and love!

 

-Hannah

5 things to do when anxiety makes communication hard

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Anxiety sucks. Plain and simple. I know the first sentence of a blog post should be more than two words, but I decided to make my grabber short and to the point. Anxiety effing sucks. It makes so many things that should be so easy, so hard. Why do I feel bad for asking my boyfriend to help me do the dishes or get me a bottle of water, why did I feel weird asking my professors for help on assignments I didn’t understand, why do I feel like I’m rude for asking for help or for starting a difficult conversation? I’m not, no one is. And it is so horrible that a mental disorder can make us feel that that is how it is. Anxiety isn’t something that is overcome magically with the words “It will be okay” Anxiety is tackled with day to day hard work and it doesn’t really get easier to handle, eventually over the years you just get better at handling it. I wrote this blog post in hopes that maybe I can help someone whose anxiety keeps them from being able to have basic conversations like me. So here are some of my tips on what I do when I find that my anxiety won’t allow me to just communicate the way that other people can.

 

  1. Close your eyes and take deep breaths (mini meditation)

If you can close your eyes and imagine the world slowing down to your pace things honestly seem a little easier almost instantly. Part of what anxiety does is it makes your head spin a million miles an hour and makes you think up irrational nonsense about a situation or about yourself and when you can take deep breathes and try to imagine that for a minute the world isn’t moving or that you control the pace then it’s easy to stop and actually have a rational inner dialogue with yourself. And once you give yourself a moment to speak to yourself a little more rationally it’s easier to speak to other people with the idea that if you ask them for a favor or give your opinion they won’t think all the negative things about you that your brain initially tells you they will. After you give yourself that pause it’s easier to ask your ego (the part of your brain that likes to tell you bad things about yourself) “why in the hell would my boyfriend think I’m lazy for asking him to do his own laundry?” or whatever the case may be. This leads me to my second tip.

 

  1. Remind yourself that your mind plays games

Even if you have to tell yourself 1000 times before having an important conversation say it in your head or even out loud until your ego stops speaking over your true self. It is so easy to get caught up in the negative things your mind likes to tell you but that doesn’t make them true. In fact, every initially thought that you have is probably the exact opposite of how real life is going to pan out. With anxiety it can be hard to separate what others are actually thinking and what your mind is telling you their thinking. Sometimes you begin to ask a question and you hear exasperation in their voice and automatically think “Oh no, they’re already fed up with me.” But one thing I constantly have to remind myself that makes me feel better is “not everything is about me” the look on a person’s face, the tone in a person’s voice, or even their reaction may not have a single thing to do with you! So, when your mind plays games and tries to tell you “they’re upset and it’s all your fault,” don’t listen because trust me it’s the furthest thing from the truth. A person can be having a hard day for any reason, not just because of you.

 

  1. Listen to some music

This will probably sound so lame or stupid to some people but yes, I listen to music to pump myself up to have a conversation sometimes! I have always found my greatest strength after listening to certain songs. Even when I was in labor with Ava I had a playlist for that! Sometimes it will be something loud with lots of emotion in the lyrics and sometimes its light and playful to distract myself from the negative thoughts I’ll have before confronting someone. Honestly, music is my answer to almost anything and everything.

 

  1. Take a short walk and gather your thoughts

Sometimes getting your endorphins going is exactly what you need to help you kick start more positive thinking. Not only does it help you think more positively, but it gives you that extra quiet time to think about what you’re going to say when you start whatever conversation it is that you need to start. It gives you a moment to plan out the tone you want to have and think about how you’re going to get the reaction you’re looking for and also how you’ll react if you don’t get the reaction you’re looking for. It is important to remind yourself “I may not get what I want out of this but that is okay” Getting your body moving is always a good idea when you feel any anxiety coming on.

 

  1. Think about the best-case scenario

One thing I’ve learned throughout my life is that I am the thing that is always standing in my way. Seriously, my self-doubt has held me back from SO MANY things in life. And that unfortunately is a giant part of anxiety is having to constantly hear that little voice in the back of your head tell you that “You can’t do ____” or “You’re not good enough to be ____” Believe it or not we do have 2 voices in our heads. Our own voice and the voice of our ego and as mentioned before it is the voice of our ego constantly telling us “You can’t” and for me it’s a fight to keep telling that voice that it is wrong and that great thing can happen for me if I do ___ because I’m more than capable of doing or being ____. Like I said it is an everyday fight to believe my voice instead of my ego’s voice and while I’m so much better than I was before I still have not mastered it, but it is definitely the one fight I feel is worth having. This little battle that I’ve decided to face every day has actually been one of the biggest life changers for me.

 

I know some of these may seem silly to some people, but they definitely work for me! I hope that if you try them out they’ll work just as good for you! I know starting conversations can be hard with anxiety, but you don’t have to allow it to consume your life! When I decided my anxiety wasn’t going to be who I am my life changed. Don’t get me wrong it wasn’t like flipping a switch, I have to work at this every single day. But the work is worth the freedom I have now!

Why You Should Leave A Toxic Relationship and Never Look Back

This blog post was only written with the intention of helping people leave a situation that isn’t healthy for them. There is so much controversy going around about being in a toxic relationship and whether or not someone should stay to “save” their significant other. As someone who has been in a toxic relationship my opinion is firm that you should NEVER put your own well-being at risk to “save” someone else. And yes, leaving yourself in any unhealthy situation is putting your well-being at risk.

 

No matter how strong you are, it will end up changing you.

 

It’s a sad truth that loving someone who is not good for you can end up changing you, and not in a positive way. From how you feel when you wake up in the mornings, to how you treat your friends and the people around you, to the boundaries you set for how you want the people around you treat you. No matter how “strong” you think you are being around a toxic person drains not just the way you feel, but your core beliefs and values. It will start subtle and won’t be completely noticeable at first, it can start with not being around for your friends when they need you during times you normally would because if you’re not with your significant other at a certain moment they “don’t believe you really love them”. It can also be something like him and his friends cracking mean jokes (and I’m not talking about playful) and you shrugging it off like it’s no big deal. After enough time this turns to actual mistreatment of your friends and family and to allowing yourself to be torn down by people who you have spent all your time trying to impress and prove yourself to. It is also well known that you are who you keep closest to you and if you keep company with toxic people, you will become toxic too. This is often how toxic can turn into mutually abusive. You start to get tired of being put down but instead of walking away you start putting down the person you are with too. It’s a constant competition of who can hurt who more and I don’t think it needs to even be explained in detail why you don’t want this and why you don’t want to stick around long enough for it to become this.

 

No matter how much you want to convince yourself, it is NOT love.

 

If you’ve stopped to read this article I think it’s safe to assume that you already may be thinking you’re in a toxic relationship and I’m sure just like I once did you justify staying by telling yourself repeatedly “This person is the love of my life. He/she loves me and no one else will ever love me as much as they do” This is exactly what a toxic person wants you to believe but I want you to take a second and think about the “perfect man/woman” you used to dream about when you were little. When you used to imagine Mr./Mrs. Perfect did you ever imagine them cheating on you? Did you ever imagine them letting their friends say terrible things about you? Did you ever imagine them stealing from you? Did you ever imagine them putting you in a situation where you had to choose between them and your family? Did you ever picture them making fun of your body? How about laying their hands on you? My guess is no, you did not. And you want to know why? Because these things are NOT love. And someone who truly loves you would never do these things to you. Life isn’t perfect, and people definitely are not perfect either but if a man/woman really loves you they would never do these things to you. And while you may be trying to convince yourself that “it’s just a hard time and they really do love you” you already know the truth. This is not love and you deserve better. Which brings me to my next bullet.

 

You cannot have anything truly great if you keep holding on to the things that drag you down.

 

Imagine a life with someone who encouraged you, gave you more confidence, made you feel safe and supported. Imagine a life with someone who never said bad things about you. Imagine what it would feel like to be with someone who wanted to be with only you and didn’t make up excuses for cheating on you. Imagine being with someone who made a positive impact in your life and didn’t blame you for all the things going wrong in theirs. Don’t you want to be with someone who makes you feel like you’re important? Well the absolute blunt truth is that if you stay in a toxic relationship you will NEVER have this. If you stay with a toxic person, they will NOT change. Why would they? They get to be however they want knowing you will stay, so why would they ever care to treat you better? It’s a hard pill to swallow but no matter how much you think you love them or you think they love you they will not change for you. You are better off leaving and letting go so you can give yourself the chance to find someone who is extraordinary. So that you can give yourself the chance to find someone who truly does love you.

 

YOU CAN NOT SAVE THEM!

 

There is this thought process going around that you should stay in a toxic relationship to “save” the other person, well I’m going to tell you right now that this thought process is bull. No one can save them but themselves. If they don’t want to change its not up to you to stay until they decide they’re finally ready to be better. You have no obligation to put your happiness on hold for someone else or to put someone else’s well-being in front of your own. Its normal to want better for the people you love but when you want more for them than they want for themselves it becomes unhealthy for you. If they don’t want to be better there is nothing you can say or do that is going to make them want it. I could go on for days but the bottom line is you can’t save the ones you love.

 

You deserve to be happy

 

And you can have the rest of your life to do so. Doesn’t matter if you’re 16, 28, 45, or 80, you deserve to live the rest of your life happy. And you can’t be happy if you continue to hold on to people who make you feel bad about yourself. You don’t deserve someone who constantly makes you feel like you’re not good enough or who makes you feel like you need to compare yourself to every other man/woman around you. You deserve to wake up and feel good about yourself and to feel excited about what new and great things the day has to bring. You don’t deserve to spend your day walking on eggshells wondering what it’s going to be that sets off the person that you’re with. You deserve to life your life freely and to live it being loved fully by the people around you. You don’t deserve someone who constantly makes you feel like you’re not enough even though you try your hardest to give them everything. Plain and simple you deserve happiness and if you stay in a toxic relationship you’re throwing away pretty much any chance you have a being happy.

 

 

A good amount of us have been there. And we all had to fight really hard to get out of a bad situation. Personally, for me it took moving to the other side of the country for college and getting the chance to see almost from an outside perspective what life I had been choosing to live every day. All the empty promises I calculated in my head, all the times I forgave cheating because I was constantly told that it was my fault it happened in the first place, all the names I had been called by him and his friends, the list goes on. And I to this day look in the mirror and have a hard time convincing myself that all the things that were said about me aren’t true and that all the things that were done to me aren’t true. However, even though I have so many broken pieces that, after all the years, I still have trouble putting back together I have a man by my side who loves me and doesn’t see those broken pieces. He loves me fully, heart and soul for everything I am and everything I’m not. Every day he tells me how wonderful he thinks I am and tells me he appreciates me and lets me know how lucky he feels to have me in his life. Being with him is easy and sometimes it feels like he literally breathes life into me. Especially at my weakest moments. I feel loved and I feel safe. And this is what everyone deserves. This is why you should leave your toxic relationship and never look back. Because what is ahead of you is so much more wonderful than anything you could possibly imagine.

How I Traveled all of New Zealand with only $5000 US!

Okay travel bugs, here goes my first travel post! A few years back I spent two months traveling all up and down New Zealand. And for two whole months I spent maybe around $7000 USD. Want to know how I did it? Well here we go!

First of all let me say that round trip your plane ticket will be somewhere between $1200 and $2000 USD round trip depending on what airline you use and if they are having a deal. I ended up paying $1500 USD to fly Air New Zealand from LAX to Christchurch on premium economy seats for every flight. This included lots of leg room, a personal tv screen on my seats where I got to choose what I watched, and FREE WINE. Obviously the last part was a big plus for me.

The next part which was the most important was that I used New Zealand’s Kiwi Experience Bus to get around. Now the Kiwi Experience has many different packages for traveling around NZ and they tell you the minimum days needed so you can plan accordingly to complete your entire trip. The package I chose was “The Whole Kit and Caboodle” package. Which is usually $1200 USD but you can prepay for all the biggest activities which can make your total up to $2500 USD. However, you should always look into what activities come in the packages because there might be things in there that you don’t want to do like skydiving for example. Now before you plan your trip right off the bat keep in mind that the Kiwi Experience is constantly running specials. When I bought my Kit and Caboodle pass I got it for about $800 USD which was obviously extremely helpful.

Now for me I had spent $2300 USD which was just a little less than half the $5000 budget and leaves you $2700 to feed yourself and find places to sleep along each stop. Well at this point you will have to keep in mind that the American dollar is worth more than a New Zealand dollar. $1USD is equivalent to $1.48NZD. And the big key for room and board as well as feeding yourself is to make sure to stay in hostels. For those of you who don’t know hostels are like a cross breed of Hotels and College dorms. And if you like making new friends it is FUN. A hostel will be about $30 a night on average to room with a 5-7 other people. Multiply that by 30 nights and that will cost you $900 NZD. And you may have also prepaid for several different stops as well. Thats just over $600USD.

Congrats now you have about $2100USD to spend on food and other activities and some nights out at the bar with all your new friends! So how can you save as much money as possible on food so that you have more money for adventure? This is where you need your social skills to come into play. Make friends and do family meals. This will cut your food ticket down tremendously! Decide to eat with a group of people, figure out who cooks what on what days, go grocery shopping together and split the bill. You will save hundreds over a month and not have to starve and you will help others make their money last too! So lets call it another $400NZD for a months worth of groceries. you’ll be spending around $270USD. That is $1800USD to spend however you want so make it count!

Thank you for reading my first post, I hope that you enjoyed reading it, and I also hope that I was able to help you plan the trip of a lifetime! Please like share and follow for more posts like this!